Women to Watch AZ – Mary A. Havens

“Men like this, and it is mostly men, learn how to keep secrets early and young and are good at it, experts at deception.” – Jilly Jesson Smyth

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Author Mary A. Havens by Jilly Jesson Smyth

Rising from the Ashes

This photo of Mary Havens says it all, she is building an ice cream sundae with toppings galore, enjoying her life, traveling and meeting amazing people across the land and making a difference.  It is hard to believe when we met a couple of years ago, we were both recovering from trauma beyond belief. I saw her across a crowd of friends getting ready to walk at a beautiful space called La Encantada as the sun was going down under the magnificent Catalina Mountains in Tucson, Arizona. I sensed she had been through something very serious, something heartbreaking and shocking, the kind of stuff that no one believes can really happen so close to home.

Since we met and began speaking to the unspeakable, she has been on a mission to bring light to a very dark subject with her new memoir The Shadows In My Heart. 

Life is a process of forgetting and remembering.

“Still the hardest thing for me is self-forgiveness, even though I know I did my very best under all circumstances,” Mary says. 

Remembering takes courage, reflecting back on a horrific time in order to write about one’s life honestly brings up buried secrets and horrors.

In order to expose what happened, the images flowing through Mary’s mind and heart had to be looked at again.

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Dr. Allan Hamilton. Mary Havens and I at the Tucson Festival of Books.

 

Because it is still happening. 


During this journey Mary met an incredible support team including Paul Krupin and Lynn Wiese Sneyd, Publicists for Mary A. Havens, and Allan J. Hamilton (pictured) an American physician and medical consultant to ABC’s medical drama Grey’s Anatomy based in Tucson, Arizona. As her sisters believed and knew, so did her expanding circle of helpers and she left to start a new life. Mary Havens is now speaking out in intimate and larger gatherings to help guide others to rise and love again. The first thing a friend can do is listen and believe.

There are no more secrets.

I read Mary’s story and it resonated with a deep knowing of how Coercive Control happens like a slow drip of a “pattern of behaviour which seeks to take away the victim’s liberty or freedom, to strip away their sense of self. It is not just women’s bodily integrity which is violated but also their human rights.” (more)

Every woman of every age needs to read this book.

“Secrets like these are so damaging.” – Mary Havens

Being miserable can be buried deep in order to protect the kids and parents, but it doesn’t. When Mary told her In-Laws about her ex-husband’s pedophilia, they did not believe her, when she told her own parents, they did not hear her. They all effectively set up Mary’s children, their grandchildren, to be abused. It is the tip of the iceberg. An abuser of any kind knows how to hide around corners and turn into a monster at the flip of a dime. Men like this, and it is mostly men, learn how to keep secrets early and young and are good at it, experts at deception.

Believe.

The Shadows in My Heart
Mary Havens shares her compelling story in, The Shadows in My Heart, where she unmasks the truth and tragic consequences of family secrets and mysteries. This groundbreaking autobiography, her lifelong quest, is about real people who inhabited a sleepy, peaceful Midwestern dairy farm in the Wisconsin Ocooch Mountains.

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I believe you will be awakened to the strength of Mary Haven’s story of freedom.

You can reach me at JillyJessonSmyth.co

@JillyWisdom  @JillJessonSmyth

 

 

 

 

Women to Watch AZ – Lori DiGuardi

The Business of Truth

I was introduced to Lori DiGuardi at this time last year and knew right away she was a woman of substance, love and inspiration.  We met on New Year’s Eve at my friend Linda Joy’s celebration on the last day of 2017 and I was excited to learn of her new book soon to be published.

The first event we all participated in was the Woman’s March Tucson, a very exciting time of strength and momentum with 5,000 people marching through the historic downtown with high positive energy. We gathered and raised our voices in unison above the turmoil and chaos soon to manifest in the year of firestorms beyond our knowing at the time.

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As soon as I held Lori’s new book in my hands this year on New Year’s Eve 2018,  I was ready to read her story of a spiraling upward journey to knowing her truth. The reality of a real yellow brick road and hero’s alchemy titled “Anger 101: The Healthy Approach to Being a Bitch”. The timing could not be more perfect.

“Join me in celebrating the inner truth of anger together.” – Lori DiGuardi

I highly suggest every woman read this book and…

Become Your Own Superhero in 10 Simple Steps by Lori DiGuardi

Being a superhero is more about the quality of your being rather than what you do yet it takes everything you got. 1 – Superheroes live for honor. Make a commitment to honor yourself. Proclaim, “From this day forward, I am committed to honoring myself.” Making a commitment forms an energetic contract and you will…

via Become Your Own Superhero in 10 Simple Steps — Blog – Lori DiGuardi – Speaker, Life Coach, Mentor, Consultant

Kase Takes on Theology – Cynthia A. Kase

I am completely inspired by reading the wisdom of the magnificent women I know. Having several blogs and websites is like having different styles of homes in different locals, I can express the variety of themes that excite me.

One of the themes I care about is theology and spirituality. My Doctor of Divinity degree is inspired by my long family history of Episcopalian and Lutheran ministry and how the study of the Unitarian Universalist Church Faith aligns with my heart.

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Cynthia is pictured in the center back.

I met Cynthia at a Tucson Women’s Blogger gatherimg and felt her strong, heartfelt need to express her expertise in understanding why spiritual history is important.

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“We create spirituality and community beyond boundaries, working for more justice and more love in our own lives and in the world. Unitarian Universalism affirms and promotes seven Principles, grounded in the humanistic teachings of the world’s religions. Our spirituality is unbounded, drawing from scripture and science, …” uua.org/beliefs

Enjoy her blog!

Kase Takes on Theology

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Thanks and Welcome…

This blog is not about the study of theology, or an apologetic, or an explication of dogma. It’s about my life, coming to faith in God, discovering truth, learning lessons. So, by definition, it’s autobiographical, and contains my observation about life and my own ideas about how things are – my “take” on what might be called theology, plus a lot more. {Image: The blogger dressed for New England weather, circa 1955.}

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Remembering Mom – Pam Varner

When I met Pam, I was inspired by her “lets get it done” attitude towards finding her passion. Since we met she has blossomed into an amazing businesswoman, taking charge of her life and meeting new people everywhere by helping them create their dreams while growing hers and supporting her family.

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Pam is pictured on the left.

“Those who can, do. Those who can teach, inspire those who can.” – Pam Varner @MySassynotions

Read how her Mom inspired her…

My Sassy Notions

I have vivid memories of my mom at the sewing machine when I was a child. I watched in awe as she turned pieces of fabric into clothes for my sister and I. She studied fashion design at The Art Institute of Chicago where she learned to draft her own patterns and produce clothing that looked store bought. My sister was taking Home EC and from my view was on her way to fashion freedom. I desperately wanted to learn too. I begged my mom to teach me to sew and eventually she relented.

My mother had many talents; teaching was not one of them. A combined lack of talent and patience led to frustration on steroids. The blue overall pants, I so desperately wanted to sew myself,  were constructed beautifully by her. I hated wearing those pants; a symbol of my failure.

I never lost my desire to learn and eventually…

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Do you like flying with angels?

 I Sure Do!

What I believe is that women are lining up to take off and as they do, angels are arriving to lift their wings in flight.

Watch for more MOKSHA right here on the daring women I know that are making a difference and following their desires.

The adventure begins NOW!

Namaste and Love,

Jilly

Welcome to Tiny Notes from Athena of The Desert!

Our boots have high heels and we have spine.

Join us if you dare, be a part if you care,

Jilly

Thank you for stopping by!

Cowgirl Style…What is it?

Women who choose to live in the Southwest Desert have a style and spice not found elsewhere.

We do things differently, care about people’s dreams and don’t put up with much.

Manners are important, grace is necessary and grit makes us fine.

Thank you for stopping by and taking a walk where turantulas, javelina, snakes, horses, pack rats and mountain lions live among pool dwellers, tumbleweeds, cactus and a very big blue sky.

Our boots have high heels and we have spine.

Join us if you dare, be a part if you care,

Jilly

Smart Girls and Women of Wisdom Tucson, Arizona